Pathways to Your #Passion: Find Freedom Through Courage

Recently, our FLOTUS shared some words of wisdom that she would have said to her younger self: “…Stop being so afraid! That’s really what strikes me when I look back – the sheer amount of time I spent tangled up in fears and doubts that were entirely of my own creation. I was afraid of not knowing the answer in class and looking stupid, or worried about what some boy thought of me, or wondering whether the other girls liked my clothes or my hair, or angsting about some offhand comment someone made to me in the lunchroom.”

While Michelle’s (I can call her by her first name right) advice is useful for the young girls she was speaking to this advice hold true for those of us walking along the pathway to our passion or actually at a standstill because we’re concerned about how others will receive us and our dream. We’re too wrapped up in the notion that I’m new to this, no one’s ever heard of me, no one else has done it this way. Our fear has us bound and is preventing us from getting to the other side of our passion. Today is the day to follow the Lord’s commandment to Joshua, “Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the LORD thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest.” (Joshua 1:9)

Which fear will you tackle first? Share your results as you capture the land. See you on the other side of your passion.

P.S. In case you’re wondering how do I know it will work. Well, here is my testimony. I received an email near the beginning of September about applying to participate in an online conference. I didn’t apply right away because that fear of being rejected because I’m the new girl seized me. I shook it off very quickly and applied anyway. Guess who is going to be a panelist on SORMAG’s Online Conference? 

SORMAG Con Panelist

Pathways to Your #Passion: Connect to Your Source

The pathway to your promise isn’t a straight one. There will be boulders that you have to try and circumvent, there will be tiny pebbles that will appear to be minuscule yet cause you to stumble greatly. There will traffic jams that will make you believe that you will never reach the other side of your passion on time. But time and success are relative when you connect to your source.

I don’t know what your picture of success looks like and I don’t know what date or time you’ve stamped and connected to the moment in which your success will be cemented in the sands of time, but you must know this, “for promotion cometh neither from the east, nor the west, nor from the south. God is the judge: he putteth one down, setteth up another.” Your success isn’t dependent upon all of your elbow grease, your networking, the midnight oil you burned, although those things are necessary factors in the equation. If you want to reap a harvest you have to sow some seeds, but the rain comes from the heavens and heaven is His throne. You must connect to your source to reach the other side of your passion.

Connect to Your Source:

1. Let Him in on your plans and intentions. Be honest with God, He can take it.

2, Let Him in on the timeline you have. Again, be honest with God, He can take it.Psalm 75.6-7

3, Ask Him what He wants and realign (trust me, you will have to realign) the vision you have for your success.

4.  Spend time in prayer and even fasting to get into the heart of God and really understand what it means to walk, run, and ride, to your passion with Him by your side backing you.

5. Then get to marching. Your pathway might look different and you will feel different, but once you’re connected to your source reaching the other side of your passion will be a blessed journey and you will experience success before you experience success. Remember your success is not dependent upon you or anyone else, but in you putting your trust in His righteousness, in His abundance, in His faithfulness, in His provision, and in His vision.

How do you currently connect to your source?  How have you found strength to carry on? Do you feel better knowing that your promotion and exaltation is in God’s hands?

Born at Dawn #Book #Brunch and #Launch #Party

It’s almost time for the release of my debut novel and of course that means it’s almost time to TURN UP and celebrate. The Neophyte Author, Nigeria Lockley would like to extend an invitation to the Born at Dawn Book Brunch and Launch Party.

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At the party you’ll have the opportunity to:

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For tickets to the live party at Pearl Studios click here: Born at Dawn Book Brunch and Launch Party 

For tickets to the virtual party on Facebook click here: Born at Dawn Virtual Book Launch Party

Sponsors Include:

Tyora Moody

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Colette Harrell

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Unoma Nwankwor

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Please be sure to check out and support the work of these wonderful Christian authors and I can’t wait to see at the party on, Saturday, October 18, 2014.

Pathways to Your Passion: Don’t Dwell in Defeat

So, I’m shaking things up a bit here with a video blog, I guess that’s a vlog (right). Nevertheless, this is the second post in the Pathways to Your Passion Series, “Don’t Dwell in Defeat”. Just press play and rejoice with me today.

 

See you on the other side of your passion!

Don’t Ditch the Dream–Do the Dream

So, the smoke has cleared and the dust has settled and I am sorry, but Shonda Rhimes commencement speech at Dartmouth wasn’t

From Rollingout.com
From Rollingout.com

“epic” as some say and I don’t think she “gets it”. 

Were valid points made? Yes. Important points? Yes. Life does suck after college graduation. We all should commit some of our time to a cause that we care about and it is true when trying to multitask in life whatever apparent professional success you have foreshadows some failure elsewhere in life. After writing a butt kicking lesson or meeting a writing goal I’ve set means I’ve neglected my husband or I didn’t do my daughters’ hair. But that’s just proves the old adage to be true a jack of all trades is a master of none. 

Before writing this post I contemplated writing this post several times. I don’t want any beef with Shonda’s followers. I sat down and watched the whole speech rather than glean off of what others had already written. Challenging Shonda and the residents of Shondaland is entering dangerous and hostile territory, but a week later I really think she should stick to her territory (writing for television) because telling people to ditch their dreams and diminishing dreams into momentary flights of fancy isn’t a lesson. It’s condescending. 

Granted, she’s right we all need to have our own dreams and not desire to be someone else or live their life and their successes. We can’t step on the scale of life and hope that someone else’s weight shows up. But then again we must all begin somewhere. The truth and the lesson to be learned about dreams is we shouldn’t ditch the dream–we should, we must do the dream.

Dream Big, Set Goals, Take Action chalk drawingDo what you are dreaming of doing. Don’t just get “any job” so that you can be happy “doing” because according to Shonda all of the truly “happy, really successful people, interesting, engaging, and powerful people” are “doing”.

You don’t have a job…search and wait for the one you want in the field you want otherwise you’ll end up bitter, unsuccessful, and disengaged with very little power over your life let alone those around you.

I know because I tried it once.

I had a dream. It was bright and glitterly…it was bold and fanciful…it was poetic…it was magnetic…heck, other people even bought into my dream of becomning a writer. I started out on the right track after I graduated from college. I sent out my articles–a professor even set up an interview for me at Parents Magazine. I was on my way, however after a couple of rejection letters from some magazines and a little pressure from my then boyfriend to just “do something” now that I had graduated college I ditched the dream.

I went and got a job. Not the perfect job…not even a job close to what I wanted (I was selling sneakers) and my life sucked more than a Dyson. My life sucked for several years as I did, did, and did…until I realized I was doing, but it wasn’t what I wanted to do. 

Then something happened. I began teaching. Ahhh…they were just writing workshops for kids, but I was getting closer to the glitter. Turned out I liked teaching, so I found out how to “do” that. I was happy until someone challenged me and asked whatever happened to your dream. Why are you teaching? Why aren’t you doing your dream?

After some prayer, after some prodding, after some writing…my dream returned to me. It was bright and glittery…it was bold and fanciful…it was poetic…it was magnetic…it was alive and I was doing it. Once I began doing it…the Lord began opening doors and avenues for me that I hadn’t even dreamed of. I began to learn and to see things that I could not imagine not even in a dream, but I had to begin somewhere.

Dreams are beginnings. Dreams are diving boards. Dreams are road maps. Don’t ditch your dreams–do your dreams.8ccbeb54-bb2b-49b5-b531-c91f2cb4b177

How do you feel about dreams? Do them? Ditch them?

Join the conversation. 

 

Failure. Not An Option.

Last week while aimlessly scrolling through my Facebook news feed I stumbled upon a post about how much published writers make. Based on the data, according to the Digital Book World 2014 Survey the financial forecast for me is bleak. However, as I type this post right now everything in me is echoing, “Not so.” You see for me there is something that I cannot and will not accept. Failure. Not an option. Whatsoever. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that because you do not earn a certain amount of money from your writing you are a failure, but my goal is not to be broke and the God I serve is rich in houses in land. He delights in blessing His children.  Why should I accept earning less than what He is capable of providing? 

The first thing I want to use my writing for is to glorify God that is not equivalent to earning $1000 per year. The word clearly tells me (and you) that our gifts will make room for us in this world. So, don’t shake your author earningshead at this post and say, “That girl has gone completely mad, she ain’t making a dime.” I believe God. I believe He made the patriarchs rich and I believe He is the same yesterday and forever. Therefore, failure. Say it with me, “Not an Option.”

I don’t know what the forecast for success for you is in your field of industry, but I am sure the odds are stacked against you or there is someone always telling you what you cannot do. They’re wrong. When I set out to get my book published someone said to me, “I don’t know why you’re doing this. You’re not going to make.” I was crushed and at the same time invigorated. Those words hurt, but the Lord filled me with something sweet and I’m going to share it with you today. The Lord inspired me to respond to that person’s unbelief by saying, “Even if you don’t believe in me don’t you believe in my God?” I dare you to say that your naysayers and the dream-killers in your life who always have data and facts to share. The fact is God is greater than statistics. The fact is prosperity is a part of his plan for us. The fact is with God all things are possible, including me earning more than what that survey says.