So, the smoke has cleared and the dust has settled and I am sorry, but Shonda Rhimes commencement speech at Dartmouth wasn’t
“epic” as some say and I don’t think she “gets it”.
Were valid points made? Yes. Important points? Yes. Life does suck after college graduation. We all should commit some of our time to a cause that we care about and it is true when trying to multitask in life whatever apparent professional success you have foreshadows some failure elsewhere in life. After writing a butt kicking lesson or meeting a writing goal I’ve set means I’ve neglected my husband or I didn’t do my daughters’ hair. But that’s just proves the old adage to be true a jack of all trades is a master of none.
Before writing this post I contemplated writing this post several times. I don’t want any beef with Shonda’s followers. I sat down and watched the whole speech rather than glean off of what others had already written. Challenging Shonda and the residents of Shondaland is entering dangerous and hostile territory, but a week later I really think she should stick to her territory (writing for television) because telling people to ditch their dreams and diminishing dreams into momentary flights of fancy isn’t a lesson. It’s condescending.
Granted, she’s right we all need to have our own dreams and not desire to be someone else or live their life and their successes. We can’t step on the scale of life and hope that someone else’s weight shows up. But then again we must all begin somewhere. The truth and the lesson to be learned about dreams is we shouldn’t ditch the dream–we should, we must do the dream.
Do what you are dreaming of doing. Don’t just get “any job” so that you can be happy “doing” because according to Shonda all of the truly “happy, really successful people, interesting, engaging, and powerful people” are “doing”.
You don’t have a job…search and wait for the one you want in the field you want otherwise you’ll end up bitter, unsuccessful, and disengaged with very little power over your life let alone those around you.
I know because I tried it once.
I had a dream. It was bright and glitterly…it was bold and fanciful…it was poetic…it was magnetic…heck, other people even bought into my dream of becomning a writer. I started out on the right track after I graduated from college. I sent out my articles–a professor even set up an interview for me at Parents Magazine. I was on my way, however after a couple of rejection letters from some magazines and a little pressure from my then boyfriend to just “do something” now that I had graduated college I ditched the dream.
I went and got a job. Not the perfect job…not even a job close to what I wanted (I was selling sneakers) and my life sucked more than a Dyson. My life sucked for several years as I did, did, and did…until I realized I was doing, but it wasn’t what I wanted to do.
Then something happened. I began teaching. Ahhh…they were just writing workshops for kids, but I was getting closer to the glitter. Turned out I liked teaching, so I found out how to “do” that. I was happy until someone challenged me and asked whatever happened to your dream. Why are you teaching? Why aren’t you doing your dream?
After some prayer, after some prodding, after some writing…my dream returned to me. It was bright and glittery…it was bold and fanciful…it was poetic…it was magnetic…it was alive and I was doing it. Once I began doing it…the Lord began opening doors and avenues for me that I hadn’t even dreamed of. I began to learn and to see things that I could not imagine not even in a dream, but I had to begin somewhere.
How do you feel about dreams? Do them? Ditch them?
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